No, I’m not joking. The lunch lady at my daughter’s school is, indeed, a chemical engineer.
I was shocked. Chemical engineering is hard. Damn hard. She graduated from a good school. Had a terrific job at a Fortune 100 company. Then, she and her husband (who is also an engineer) decided to have kids. She went back to work after their first child was born, but she didn’t go back after their second child and has no intention of returning to her old job.
She can’t work and do all of the things she needs to do with kids. That includes finding care for them during the multitude of school holidays and over the summer, getting them to and from school (school by us starts after most people have to be at work, and gets out long before most people are home), and getting them to the myriad of activities that require a day time chauffeur.
My first thought was what a waste of human capital.
She is smart and well-educated. She was doing some cool work on batteries I barely understand, and there is so much more she could have contributed.
But an antiquated education system designed during an era when women didn’t work outside of the house has created a paradigm where a chemical engineer puts aside four years of grueling college work and another six years of industry experience to serve lunches and chauffeur kids around.
Think about that for a moment. Doesn’t it feel like such a waste?
Yet, I am starting to understand as I struggle to find .
Our VP of HR hires a nanny during the summer even though her kids are all in elementary school. As she said, it was the only way to get them to all of the soccer camps, ballet camps, and various other summer activities that suburban children are expected to attend or risk “falling behind”.
Yeah, already worried about falling behind in elementary school. Because if all the other kids are in soccer camp and yours isn’t… You get the idea.
I have no idea what a good solution to this is. I like to delude myself and think that there are people out there working on it, but I fear there aren’t.
That for some reason we’re content with this waste of human potential. I’m not even sure why we’re okay with it, just that we seem to be.
Maybe I’m just more aware of it as out little ones become school-age. I’m already seeing the issues as we have to cart DD1 to dance class, tumbling, or swim lessons. I recently received the school schedule, and counted 21 days off that the kids have that do not correspond to a normal work schedule. So, yeah, gotta find some kind of care for those 21 days.
I wish there was a magical place I could drop my kids off in the morning, pick them up there in the afternoon, on every day I have to work. They would be educated, get the activities that they need, and the socialization. This magical place sends me a monthly bill, and all is well.
I suppose we all have our dreams.
If you have kids, how do you handle all of the activities, especially if they are during work hours? Any kid chauffeur services I’m not aware of?
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