Ahh, the car ride into daycare. I’ve mentioned it before, and boy how my daughter likes to spring the big questions on me when I can’t wiggle away. It’s like she knows exactly how to make me squirm and delights in doing it.
So, we’re in the car, and she waits until I’m pulling out of the driveway.
“You’re married to daddy, right?”
“Yes,” I say. I’m thinking this is going down the path of discussing her friend whose parents are divorced. My daughter still struggles with wrapping her head around it.
“So, you’re a girl and you married a boy, right.”
“You don’t get married until you’re a grown-up, but yes.”
“Boys can marry boys, too, right?”
I pause. I’m in new waters, and the sharks are circling. I know everything I say will be twisted around and retold on the playground. “Why do you ask?”
“Bronson said so.”
“Well, Bronson’s not wrong.” For once.
“That means girls can marry girls.”
I pause again, feeling like the sharks are getting closer but still not knowing what to do or where this is going. “Yes.”
“Well, I’m going to marry a girl when I grow up.”
I pause again. “Why is that?”
“Because boys are gross. Did you know Bronson farts and doesn’t say excuse me?”
I’m thinking, yeah, that doesn’t change much with age.
“What do you think, momma?”
“That Bronson should say excuse me.”
“I mean about me marrying a girl.”
And the shark just ate the surfer. Yeah, I knew something was coming, but I didn’t know until the moment the jaws closed.
I take a deep breath. “I want you to marry someone that loves you, is good to you, and will always be there for you. If they do that, I don’t care who they are.”
“I love you, momma.”
“And I will always love you, sweetheart.”
And at that moment, I realized everything I said was true.
How about you? Anyone ever spring a hard or unexpected conversation on you? How did you respond? Do you ever feel like your children, nieces, nephews, or whomever are baiting traps for you? Ever fall in? How did you get back out?