"Magically" Find More Time


I read a blog post recently blasting those of us who say we don’t have the time to dedicate to social media and building our brand. This post claimed we are simply binge watching Netflix, sleeping an extra half hour, whatever, but we’re not taking our writing seriously.

First, I don’t like social media. I mostly like writing. Both are work, one is work I like doing most of the time. I don’t even have a personal Facebook account. I don’t “tweet” or have a Twitter account. I know there are more social media sites out there, but I clearly am not on them either.

Second, I find it rather flippant to lump all writers into the same category. Especially those of us holding down a full time day job.


So, here is my schedule:

6 am-7:30 am – Wake up. Eat. Get dressed, brush my hair, teeth, and whatever minimal morning routine I can squeeze in. Help get the kids dressed, fed, teeth brushed etc. Make it out the door by 7:30 so I’m not late to work.

7:30 am-8:00 am – Drop the kids off and drive to work.

8:00 am-5:00 pm –  Work. Maybe later, depending on the time of year, the projects I am working on, and looming deadlines.

5:00 pm-5:30 pm (or later) – Drive home

5:30 pm-6:45 pm  – Make and eat dinner. Clean up after dinner.

6:45 pm-7:30 pm – Family stuff. Go for a walk, watch an episode of TV with DD, practice letters, read books, whatever. This is the brief snip of time I have to enjoy the kids.

7:30 pm-8:00 pm – Bedtime routine for DD1.

8:00 pm-8:15 pm – Shower, get clothes out for myself and the kids for the next day, etc.

8:15 pm-9:00 pm – Write while DH puts DD2 to bed

9:00-10:00 spend an hour with DH. We might sit and chat, play some video games, whatever. Maybe I’ll read if he wants to just chill. Can’t remember the last time we watched TV or a movie . . .

10 pm – Bed


So, I have to give up time with my children, time with my spouse, or sleep to wrangle more time to do social media. Or I have to give up my 45 minutes of writing time. Not going to do it, so I guess I am just not going to take my writing “seriously”.

I love writing. I would very much like to see some success in my writing endeavors. But it will never replace my day job. Families are simply too expensive and writer incomes too meager, especially in 2016 when mom’s are sometimes the primary income.

I really hope I just misunderstood the post. Or reacted strongly because we are going through a rough time with DD2 and medical issues, combined with a great deal of day job stress.

Or maybe the blogger has never tried to balance a full time job, a spouse, and two kids with a fledgling writing career and aversion to social media.

Or maybe there is no hope to launch a writing career at this point in my life. If that’s the case,  not sure how I feel about all the wasted hours I’ve spent alone at a keyboard when I could’ve been reading, binge watching Netflix, or playing Fallout 4.

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4 thoughts on “"Magically" Find More Time

  1. Ick 🙁

    I’m going to say
    1. Blogging counts. (It has to right? oh please say it counts! It’s the only social media I like.)
    2. That’s a whole lot of schedule! (My schedule is similar to yours but without the spouse and children and I STILL don’t find time to Social Media much because I hate it so much. I might be the blasted here, I don’t make time for it. I keep hoping things I do like (podcast! blogging!) will count enough to overlook the lack of tweets.)
    3. Not wasted hours. Even if you don’t manage to launch right away, still not wasted.
    4. Do people really like Social Mediaing? I mean they must right? Someone out there does…?

    1. Does blogging count? Not sure… If it does, I do social media! But it seems everyone is focused on Twitter and Facebook, neither of which I do.

      Maybe someone does enjoy social media? The few people I know who “do” it seem more like they are addicted to it than really enjoy it,

      1. I vote blogging counts. (If I have my way podcasting counts too, but I think that’s a harder sell.) Twitter to me seems like the worst parts of a cocktail party (which I just…can’t). I’m trying to do an author FB page, but it is so hard. I don’t know what to post other than my podcast episodes. What do you say there? No one wants to read these great long form posts like you made. What do you do with it?

        There is a great blog post from …I believe Elizabeth Bear about how the most important marketing thing an author can do is write more. So just go with the Bear writing plan. (I’ll see if I can’t dig it up when I get home from work.)

      2. I tried to find the Elizabeth Bear post and I can’t and now I’m not sure it ever existed or if I made it up. But I have Cortex https://www.relay.fm/cortex/29 CGP Grey of millions of youtube followers fame says social media doesn’t matter, just do the thing you do! So go forth and write in good company!

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